What is arrange marriage? Arrange marriage is when you get married to someone who has been selected by your parents. You might've known them before or they could be a complete stranger. Let's take a look at some reasons of why arrange marriage still happen to some people. Why do some parents arrange their children's marriage? Sometimes they don't trust their children's choice, they have the opposite taste from their children's, they think that arrange marriage could guarantee their children's happiness, wealth and prosperity, because normally the bride or groom to be's background have been observed before. Now in this case, love isn't the priority, as the elders always say "You can't live just with love! You need money to survive!". Well......we can't blame parents who want their children to be settled, no need to worry about where they're going to live, what they're going to ride, how much they're going to eat, how much cash they're going to have in their wallet (together with the ATM and credit cards), and also which school their grandchildren will go to, without having to worry if any of them gets sick and needs to be taken care off at he hospital.
Most of our society no longer approve of arrange marriage, including myself. Since this is a modern era, I'm sure that the next generations are smarter and wiser in selecting their companion in life, so there's no need for parents to interfere in this matter. Unless they always want to get blamed whenever the couple argue, fight, or if there was something wrong with the marriage.
In some cases, arrange marriage results in unhappy marriage. However, others find fairytales eventually because love has grown along the way. It depends on the magnet, chemistry, and how far or deep they can be attracted to eachother. I guess as long as they open their heart and mind to eachother, and if they're able to click into eachother's characters, nothing's impossible to happen. The most common problem that we find out of arrange marriage is that either one or perhaps both already or still in love with someone else whom they were forced to leave.
As for me personally, I wouldn't want to arrange my children's marriage. When they decide to get married, it means they're mature enough, prepared, know exactly what they're about to go through, with the following consequences, and also there's no more doubt and they must feel completely certain of their partner. Remembering marriage is a great, tough decision, and it's a big step to the next chapter. Besides, I wouldn't want to be blamed for any flaws along the journey. They need to be responsible for their own choice and decision.
Most of our society no longer approve of arrange marriage, including myself. Since this is a modern era, I'm sure that the next generations are smarter and wiser in selecting their companion in life, so there's no need for parents to interfere in this matter. Unless they always want to get blamed whenever the couple argue, fight, or if there was something wrong with the marriage.
In some cases, arrange marriage results in unhappy marriage. However, others find fairytales eventually because love has grown along the way. It depends on the magnet, chemistry, and how far or deep they can be attracted to eachother. I guess as long as they open their heart and mind to eachother, and if they're able to click into eachother's characters, nothing's impossible to happen. The most common problem that we find out of arrange marriage is that either one or perhaps both already or still in love with someone else whom they were forced to leave.
As for me personally, I wouldn't want to arrange my children's marriage. When they decide to get married, it means they're mature enough, prepared, know exactly what they're about to go through, with the following consequences, and also there's no more doubt and they must feel completely certain of their partner. Remembering marriage is a great, tough decision, and it's a big step to the next chapter. Besides, I wouldn't want to be blamed for any flaws along the journey. They need to be responsible for their own choice and decision.
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